It's exactly like the woman who fancies some bloke you don't particularly like ,but he has already got a girlfriend.
You try to ask her out, and she continually makes excuses why she can't, although she tentatively agrees. You have a decent car and a nice gaffe, but are a little wary of going to a top top restaurant, as that's just your way.
Suddenly this other fella finds out his current girlfriend is disappearing for a few months.
Guess what, the girl who has been playing hard to get to you, is only too willing to go for a drink with your mate.
The mistake was chasing her in the first place, in the hope she would give you a chance.
Again....
Personal. Terms. Were. Agreed. With. The. Player.
It's more akin to turning up 4 hours late to your own wedding and being surprised her and the guests have left.