I guess these exemplify what people suggest he should've done:
Ignores Sarr in the centre to put VDV in a tight spot instead
Ignores Palhinha in between the 2 Villa players, takes the safe option to VDV instead
Ignores Simons to once again force VDV to a hopeless long ball
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Except these sequences only kick the can down the road: They 9 times out of 10 lead to a low percentage long pass and a turnover, one of our biggest issues under Frank. We not only fail to progress the ball, but also give opponents chances to come straight at us. Why do you think we're conceding this many goals despite playing this negative?
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But what he did yesterday directly led to a goal instead. Is that what you want?
Only because Gray failed to do the bare minimum, which was to channel the ball towards the wide open Romero through some kind of contact on the ball.
He saw Romero open, knew the play which was a simple triangle, and still tried to control it for whatever reason.
If Gray doesn't fancy himself one touching it there then he doesn't belong to this level, simple as that.