No. They didn't tell the referee to go and look at it because it was inconclusive. That is not the process.
They told the referee to look at it because they felt it was conclusive that the referee had made an obvious error. Literally everybody apart from a very very few minority Spurs fans agree it was totally correct decision to award the penalty.
For Maddison's referee gave no foul, VAR within 10 seconds, if that is how long it took, came to correct conclusion that he was correct and the ball had been played, so had no reason at all to send the referee to the monitor.
I really cannoit see the issue here at all.
Referee made obvious error in first decision, he is sent to monitor to correct it
Referee did not make any error on second decision, he is not sent to monitor.
VAR has many issues, but none of the decisions it made yesterday were wrong, although some opposition are saying the offside given when Udogie would have given away the penalty, and potentially been sent off, one frame before and one frame after, he was onside in both, so was that VAR favouring the bigger club by selectively picking that specific frame to use. I am not into that conspiracy theory, not any of the ones that VAR is against us either.