One thing I've noticed in recent years since season ticket holders bcame the vast majority of the home 'support' is an issue of 'territory'.
As a long-standing (and indeed sitting

Spurs fan, I regard the whole of the Lane as my 'spiritual home'. Wherever I'm sat as a non-ST, I feel it's my right and duty to sing and shout for my team. Naturally, if I'm sat next to a family with kids, etc I'll try to cut down on the swearing, etc. And wherever possible I do my utmost not to end up in the West or Paxton stands, but sometimes in the past I so wanted to see a game I ended up taking a ticket there if it was all that was available. Nowadays, I don't bother, BTW.
However, even in the East and Park Lane stands, I've often come across the idea that I was an 'outsider' interspersed within a clique of regulars. Now said regulars are often the moaners, whingers and analysers that I can't stand. However I accept their right to carry on whinging and I just concentrate on singing and shouting, but most times the tension ends up showing, and I'll hear something like we've 'got a right one here today' or whatever. Now it can stay on the funny side and sometimes does, but all too often the rifts appear and soon enough I'm ending up with a row with an ST or two. I don't call them fellow Spurs fans, because quite often I don't see them as fans, just people who pay money to come along to hinder our team. They of course see it differently.
This 'territory issue', didn't occur before the 90s, because for most of our history the vast majority of match goers weren't STs. My guess is in the 60s when I started going, if you had a crowd of 60,000 then at most 10% were STs. Therefore the vast majority weren't encroaching on someone else's territory and of course on the terraces you could always move away if you weren't happy with the person standing near you.
The only time I'll now go to a match is if it's an 1882 match, because they are inclusive for people like me who want to support the team. That's how I see it anyway, though I haven't been yet. At my age it's going to take a lot to get me out in the cold this winter/spring, but if anyone can do it,it'll be 1882. Almost certainly not the latest 'star' we've bought, or the fact we're playing a major game. I enjoy watching far more at home, singing and shouting to my heart's content.