I know it's an illness, have experience of it first hand. All I am saying is that if he doesn't want to help himself, nobody can help him.
It is quite sad that he has hardly any substantial sober time under his belt and his excuse for relapsing is 'I was bored"
It's not easy to stay sober, it's not a piece of piss. However, life is not easy.
It's still a choice to use even though it's an illness.
Just because it's an illness doesn't mean it's an excuse to use because ' ahhh he's an addict/alcoholic'.
He's lucky enough to have lots of help, help that some will never get because they cannot get funding for rehab and cannot afford it.
He's lucky enough to have lots of support and not seen as some low life junkie/ alky like most.
However, he has enablers and his fame is also a hindrance.
Believe me I empathise with the man, I empathise with every addict.
The simple fact is he has to want to help himself and give himself a break. We all think he's worth it, he still seems to think he's not.
Recovery is not just about not using, and not using for a long time is not success, just as relapse -if you survive it -is not a sign of failure as relapse can jolt you into applying yourself better.
Recovering is all about change. You have to stop all the old behaviour, the dishonesty and self deceit etc. It's about personal growth. Apathy and procrastination are the biggest enemies of addicts/alcoholics in recovery as he will probably attest to.
Like I said, I'm sure Paul knows what he has to do to stay clean, and he has to apply himself vigorously to do it. He has had enough rehab & counselling to realise that. He'd probably say the same if you asked him.
I wish him luck.
It is quite sad that he has hardly any substantial sober time under his belt and his excuse for relapsing is 'I was bored"
It's not easy to stay sober, it's not a piece of piss. However, life is not easy.
It's still a choice to use even though it's an illness.
Just because it's an illness doesn't mean it's an excuse to use because ' ahhh he's an addict/alcoholic'.
He's lucky enough to have lots of help, help that some will never get because they cannot get funding for rehab and cannot afford it.
He's lucky enough to have lots of support and not seen as some low life junkie/ alky like most.
However, he has enablers and his fame is also a hindrance.
Believe me I empathise with the man, I empathise with every addict.
The simple fact is he has to want to help himself and give himself a break. We all think he's worth it, he still seems to think he's not.
Recovery is not just about not using, and not using for a long time is not success, just as relapse -if you survive it -is not a sign of failure as relapse can jolt you into applying yourself better.
Recovering is all about change. You have to stop all the old behaviour, the dishonesty and self deceit etc. It's about personal growth. Apathy and procrastination are the biggest enemies of addicts/alcoholics in recovery as he will probably attest to.
Like I said, I'm sure Paul knows what he has to do to stay clean, and he has to apply himself vigorously to do it. He has had enough rehab & counselling to realise that. He'd probably say the same if you asked him.
I wish him luck.
