I live in Scotland so only meet the occasional one.
I lived in Bristol during the Bergkamp years when they had their long unbeaten runs etc, and basically were fighting the PL out with Man utd year after year. it didn't upset me in the slightest. A few of my mates were Gooners or United fans.
We ended up forth last year which was ok all things considered, we're now third, we gave the game away against the goons when we played them a few weeks ago, with errors and the red card incident.
But how they play against anyone else or should they win/draw/or lose, I don't care.
I spend most of my time with my Girlfriend and she doesn't watch or follow football, and she 'supports' Rangers.
I'm not about to get upset or argue with a gooner because they are above us in the PL, they're top of the league on merit, and we're where we are on merit, there's a long way to go but if we finish 3rd i'll be happy, I don't actually get to go to matches, I have a long term illness which means I don't travel far.
Yeah it's good to have some derby rivalry, for me I keep that for when the match between them and us is on.